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Open Letter: to NYC Moms

Stroller Photo

Dear Women All Over New York Carrying Strollers Up The Subway Stairs,

How do you do it?

I think I would throw in the towel after one trip during rush hour and head to temple to beg God to give my newborn the power to walk.

Those strollers are huge, ridiculously so, and just about the most annoying thing a person could have to maneuver onto a packed subway car.

How do you not resent that beautiful little face staring up at you while you use all of your bicep strength to carry a bed-on-wheels up a flight of unforgiving concrete stairs? I resent people for so much less!

I must applaud your dedication to your child’s comfort, as well as your commitment to supporting public transportation. Oh, and to the women with double strollers for multiple babies – just stop. You are clearly angels come to Earth and the world needs you to use your powers for a greater good.

Adam thinks he’s a writer.  He kindly requests that you pretend he’s a sleepwalker and don’t wake him up from this delusion. You can follow him on Twitter at @FakeAdamCecil.


A So Long and a Sunbeam


This weekend, we held the first of 3 parties to celebrate my mom’s life. There were tiaras, speeches, good food, and beautiful memories. Sadly (or maybe luckily) no one took their top off for Mardi Gras beads.

My mom’s rather unconventional final wish was  …READ MORE!


Funk & Flash

Found on my mom's bookshelf!

Found on my mom’s bookshelf!

Good morning, Vietnam! We’re back in business – thanks for your patience and kind words over the last two weeks – they’ve really carried me through. I’ve also been self-medicating with Idina Menzel’s acoustic rendition of this song from Rent, which has helped with the sadsies (that’s totally the medical term for being unable to get out of your pajamas for 3 days straight and a general malaise toward eating anything with actual nutritional value). I’ll tell you one good thing that has come from all of this – I discovered that I can get away without brushing my hair for several days if I wear a sock bun. The sock bun is my savior, and I’m going to build it a church.

I learned a lot of things from my mom in her final years living with cancer, but above all, it was that we can handle anything and can do it with humor. So, in that vein, I thought we could all share a laugh over THIS…READ MORE!


To My Mom…


Yesterday my mom left this world behind for a big bridge club in the sky after a long battle with lung cancer. She was a real warrior with an endless reserve of can-do and had become the light of my life in these last years together. I am so lucky to have gotten to know her – not just as a mom – but as a gutsy lady with some serious mettle. Right up until her last day, she was teaching me about strength – no matter what the Big C threw at her, she was still MacGyvering her way around it.

She made new friends everywhere she went and protected them all as if they were her own cubs. I am so thankful for that extended family today. She is often celebrated for being an expert chef and a talented artist, and, boy, did she know how to run a shop. And despite her penchant for gold outfits and perms (for her, the 1980s never ended), she livened up every room with her spunky NY humor. You never really knew what was going to come out of her mouth next, but it was usually something bold and brilliant (and often embarrassing for me). I lived to earn her laughter, and few things in life ever felt as good as hearing when I’d made her proud (mostly because I did a lot of messing up first).

She’s given me so many gifts in these last 34 years that it would be impossible to name them all, but I thank her a billion times over for each one of them. She and my dad gave my sister and me so much, but right now, the gift I’m feeling so keenly is a heart that’s so full of love I think it could burst. I hope they’re together somewhere now, sharing a cigarette and a Coke with old friends, listening to Sinatra, and knowing they mean the world to me.

I’ll be away from the blog for the rest of the week but will miss you all and look forward to coming back next week!